I'm going out on date number 2 with "Toby Keith" (that's what I'm going to call this guy) tomorrow and can't wait!!! I'm so excited but nervous! I haven't felt like this in so long but I have to keep reminding myself to "take it down a notch" and it's really not easy at all. Only a few of my close friends know that I have recruited a certified matchmake to help me in my quest for love. They are even excited about this!
I've never had a man treat me like this. Every morning since we met he has sent me a text message such as "Good Morning. Hope you have a great day at work." Then he calls me after work to see how my day was and he always ends it with "I'm looking forward to seeing your friday." He also will text me at night saying "Good night, sleep well." During our conversation yesterday he told me I was on his mind because he had to drive down to Olean to one of his sites and the company car he was driving had Sirius radio in it. The station it was programed to was all 80's music which was part of our conversation when we first met. We both love all kinds of tunes from the 70's until now but the 80's are dear to our hearts because that's when we were teenages. Needless to say he listened to it during his round trip commute. Cute right!? I thought so.
Anyway tomorrow we are going out for Japanese food then a movie. He offered to pick me up but I told him I would meet him at the restaurant. I'm not ready for him to know where I live. I'm trying not to jump in too quickly which I tend to do with EVERYTHING!!! Now that I'm 40 I'm attempting to think things through a bit more than I otherwise would. Using my past knowledge so I won't make the same mistakes twice, or three times, hell lets be honest maybe even four times! lol Live and LEARN!
We'll see if this new found philosophy will work for me. Stay tuned for a report on tomorrow nights date! Dream guy or not?
Thursday, January 27, 2011
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
On Another Note
Ok on another note - I'm teaching a Public Speaking class at a local college and we started back to school on January 18th. I only teach a Tuesday, Thursday class from 8am-9:20am. Well today, on the 3rd day of class I have the kids give a brief speech about themselves, so we can get to know each other and it usually relaxes the kids so they can speak more comfortably in front of the others.
Well one student came in late during a classmates speech, which is a no no in my class. I made him appologize to the student he interupted and then made him sit in the front of the class room facing the class until it was his turn - which was last.
To my dismay, when it came to his turn, he got up at the podium and told us how he came to this college because it was the only one that accepted him, he and his friends like to "dine and dash" especially at Denny's cuz theys are all poor black boys thats gots no money ands needs to eat! Well the look on my face as well as my students said it all! The class goes "why would you do that to someone like us who is working hard for their education!? That's so wrong!" Well it started an entire debate in my class. UGH Furthermore, I told him he needs to get to my class on time and if he continues to be late it counts against his grade. He told me he has to commute, so I say from where, he goes Buffalo! I say WE ARE IN BUFFALO!!! He said "I have to make myslef look pretty in the morning!" Really!!??? REALLY??!!!! I told him he needs to get up much earlier! WTF!!???
Well one student came in late during a classmates speech, which is a no no in my class. I made him appologize to the student he interupted and then made him sit in the front of the class room facing the class until it was his turn - which was last.
To my dismay, when it came to his turn, he got up at the podium and told us how he came to this college because it was the only one that accepted him, he and his friends like to "dine and dash" especially at Denny's cuz theys are all poor black boys thats gots no money ands needs to eat! Well the look on my face as well as my students said it all! The class goes "why would you do that to someone like us who is working hard for their education!? That's so wrong!" Well it started an entire debate in my class. UGH Furthermore, I told him he needs to get to my class on time and if he continues to be late it counts against his grade. He told me he has to commute, so I say from where, he goes Buffalo! I say WE ARE IN BUFFALO!!! He said "I have to make myslef look pretty in the morning!" Really!!??? REALLY??!!!! I told him he needs to get up much earlier! WTF!!???
Taking it down a notch
Well I went out on my date last night and it was amazing! He's so nice, the conversation just flowed and there was chemistry! He is adorable!!! He reminds me of Toby Keith - tall, sweet, with that bad boy look. We have a lot in common, he's very family orientated and loves the outdoors. When I talked to my friend she goes, "Ann, I haven't heard you this giddy since college!" Who knew you could feel this way in your 40's! The 40's ARE the new 20's ladies!!!! EMBRACE IT!! We are going out again Friday and I'm really looking forward to it.
My matchmaker is pleased. We both had to check in with her today after our date like two teenage kids checking in with the parents. She asked how it went and I told her how amazing I thought he was. Apparently he told her he knew when I walked up it was going to be a great date. Upon meeting he hugged me hello! It was so cute since he's 6ft 4in and I'm 5ft 2in!!! It melted me on the spot. Now I can't get all caught up just yet since that seems to my M.O. I need to take a step back and not jump in with both feet running. My matchmaker reminded me of this and I told her I would take it down a notch. That was easier said than done when he called me tonight to set up Friday's date. I could listen to that man talk all night but I cut the conversation off. Then I thought I may have hung up on him since I heard his voice as I clicked the end button! UGH Typical me! So I felt bad and texted him "I'm sorry if I hung up on you. Looking forward to friday." Not sure if that was appropriate but hey I didn't want to call him back and talk too much on the phone. My matchmaker says keep phone calls to a minimum but I don't think she meant hang up on him! LOL
Good God this dating thing is HARD!!! It's such bullshit that as an adult you think there are no rules, do what you think is right but how do you know what is right!? Obviously what I have done in the past hasn't worked so I'm sticking with my matchmakers advice. I'm sticking to taking it down a notch. So tonight I'm going to watch the Sabres game, have a little Bailey's on the rocks (Diane you got me hooked on that!) and then soak in my hot tub. I'm going to relax - Lord knows I need to at this point!!!! I'm not going to over think this since that's what women tend to do.
How is it that men and women are so different? Women analyze EVERYTHING - men don't, women tend to listen to their heart - men don't always know they have one! But I think this guy does have a heart and that's why I like him. He walked me to my car, gave me another bear hug and kiss on the cheek, saying he had a wonderful time. Again it melted me - oh and there was just something in his big blue eyes that grabbed me. OK enough - I'm taking it down a notch.
BUT I am excited for Friday!
My matchmaker is pleased. We both had to check in with her today after our date like two teenage kids checking in with the parents. She asked how it went and I told her how amazing I thought he was. Apparently he told her he knew when I walked up it was going to be a great date. Upon meeting he hugged me hello! It was so cute since he's 6ft 4in and I'm 5ft 2in!!! It melted me on the spot. Now I can't get all caught up just yet since that seems to my M.O. I need to take a step back and not jump in with both feet running. My matchmaker reminded me of this and I told her I would take it down a notch. That was easier said than done when he called me tonight to set up Friday's date. I could listen to that man talk all night but I cut the conversation off. Then I thought I may have hung up on him since I heard his voice as I clicked the end button! UGH Typical me! So I felt bad and texted him "I'm sorry if I hung up on you. Looking forward to friday." Not sure if that was appropriate but hey I didn't want to call him back and talk too much on the phone. My matchmaker says keep phone calls to a minimum but I don't think she meant hang up on him! LOL
Good God this dating thing is HARD!!! It's such bullshit that as an adult you think there are no rules, do what you think is right but how do you know what is right!? Obviously what I have done in the past hasn't worked so I'm sticking with my matchmakers advice. I'm sticking to taking it down a notch. So tonight I'm going to watch the Sabres game, have a little Bailey's on the rocks (Diane you got me hooked on that!) and then soak in my hot tub. I'm going to relax - Lord knows I need to at this point!!!! I'm not going to over think this since that's what women tend to do.
How is it that men and women are so different? Women analyze EVERYTHING - men don't, women tend to listen to their heart - men don't always know they have one! But I think this guy does have a heart and that's why I like him. He walked me to my car, gave me another bear hug and kiss on the cheek, saying he had a wonderful time. Again it melted me - oh and there was just something in his big blue eyes that grabbed me. OK enough - I'm taking it down a notch.
BUT I am excited for Friday!
Saturday, January 22, 2011
Women Are Gardeners When It Comes To Finding LOVE
So I was thinking about it and women are like gardeners when it comes to love. We have to "weed" through all the bad ones in order to find that prize "flower" we want to grow through life with. Think about it ladies, we meet men, pluck them out of their environments to see if they can grow and thrive in ours and if they don't, we put them back in the soil they came from for another woman/gardener to tend to them. Starting the process all over again.
This dating thing is so tedious, just like gardening! I mean really, it breaks your back but in the end you end up happy with the results! Right!? Well, we'll find out if my new found philosophy is right, won't we. I mean we have to time our first calls (preparing the soil), our first face to face meeting should only be 1-2 hours (digging the hole to plant the seed), then we have to decide if we want to see each other again (plant the seed), if so we have a timed talk and then meet again (water the seed). Each time divulging just a little more about ourselves to see if we "click" with each other, if there is that special "spark" that could blossom into something more. Each meeting we are tending to our potential flower in the hopes of turning it into a perennial garden full of butterflies. We nurture our seedling until we see if it has the potential to become something bright and beautiful, if not we plant a new seed and see where it goes. But we have to remember not to spend too much time on our new seedling, because it could turn out to be poison ivy! Go with your gut when it comes to first impressions. If you don't like what you see in the early stages, you're likely to really be diappointed with the final results. Pull it out of your garden and start a new one. So ladies, let's all go get a green thumb and tend to our potentially promising potted plant!
This dating thing is so tedious, just like gardening! I mean really, it breaks your back but in the end you end up happy with the results! Right!? Well, we'll find out if my new found philosophy is right, won't we. I mean we have to time our first calls (preparing the soil), our first face to face meeting should only be 1-2 hours (digging the hole to plant the seed), then we have to decide if we want to see each other again (plant the seed), if so we have a timed talk and then meet again (water the seed). Each time divulging just a little more about ourselves to see if we "click" with each other, if there is that special "spark" that could blossom into something more. Each meeting we are tending to our potential flower in the hopes of turning it into a perennial garden full of butterflies. We nurture our seedling until we see if it has the potential to become something bright and beautiful, if not we plant a new seed and see where it goes. But we have to remember not to spend too much time on our new seedling, because it could turn out to be poison ivy! Go with your gut when it comes to first impressions. If you don't like what you see in the early stages, you're likely to really be diappointed with the final results. Pull it out of your garden and start a new one. So ladies, let's all go get a green thumb and tend to our potentially promising potted plant!
Timing Your Talks Takes Talent!
My next "date" called. He's very nice and we are going out on Monday to dinner at 6:30pm. We chatted for only about 10 minutes on Friday with brief introductions/conversation - we need to leave something to talk about when we meet! LOL Anyway I found out quite a bit in that short 10 minute converstion and am looking forward to meeting him.
I find it funny how guys introduce them selves/strike up conversation with a woman they have never met. There is usually a lot of hesitations, they sometimes talk over you prematurely with an exciting story of their own, and the inevitable nervous giggle/laugh. This guy, however, was very confident, didn't jump over what I was saying but politely waited for me to finish before pausing a moment and answering. It was a really pleasant conversation!
The match maker says the first phone conversation shouldn't be more than 5 minutes long - enough for a brief introduction and to set up where you are going to meet. She said leave them with an air of mystery about you - if you talk too much during the first conversation you won't have anything to talk about when you meet and you will have to struggle to make conversation. It's a good tip to live by ladies so start timing your talks with a new man! Make them wait to find out about you AND YOU should always cut off the converstation. I was good at this - the first guy that called me, I cut off at 5 min 25 sec. This one was a little more difficult because he was so relaxed! The conversation just flowed and I began getting caught up in it! UGH We lasted 9 min 38 sec! My niece was yelling at me telling me "Times up you need to HANG UP!" lol. I did and am looking forward to meeting him. This conversation advice isn't bull shit advice at all - it's actually words to live by.
It's amazing though what you can find out about someone in just 9min and 38sec. Ok so this is what I got during our first timed talk: he's originally from Buffalo and moved back after 20 years in Texas, he's retired from the Navy, divorced with 2 teenage kids, just moved into his newly built house in the country, hasn't bought a snowblower yet and is regreting it, doesn't mind the snow and is enjoying being back in the area close to family, hates extremely hot/muggy weather and doesn't miss Southern Texas too much, it's his grandmother's 87 birthday this weekend and is going to his cousin's house for the party on Sunday but will be home in time to watch the Sabres play at 7:30, his 19 year old daughter moved here with him and has been adjusting to the move and is experiencing the change of seasons for the first time which she is enjoying, he's an IT Specialist and works 7am-3pm but once in a while has to work 8:30am-4:30pm - he tries to stick to the 7-3 shift during the summer since he loves doing outdoor activities, he told me to stay warm over this extremely cold weekend and enjoy my time away from work. PHEW! There's a lot of preliminary information there huh!? Can you see how I got wrapped up in chatting with him! It just flowed and don't get me wrong he was asking me questions in between all of this. It's easy to get caught up! Thank God your cell phone times your phone conversations so you don't have to "keep track" during your talk! Let me tell you timing your talks take talent! Try it!
I find it funny how guys introduce them selves/strike up conversation with a woman they have never met. There is usually a lot of hesitations, they sometimes talk over you prematurely with an exciting story of their own, and the inevitable nervous giggle/laugh. This guy, however, was very confident, didn't jump over what I was saying but politely waited for me to finish before pausing a moment and answering. It was a really pleasant conversation!
The match maker says the first phone conversation shouldn't be more than 5 minutes long - enough for a brief introduction and to set up where you are going to meet. She said leave them with an air of mystery about you - if you talk too much during the first conversation you won't have anything to talk about when you meet and you will have to struggle to make conversation. It's a good tip to live by ladies so start timing your talks with a new man! Make them wait to find out about you AND YOU should always cut off the converstation. I was good at this - the first guy that called me, I cut off at 5 min 25 sec. This one was a little more difficult because he was so relaxed! The conversation just flowed and I began getting caught up in it! UGH We lasted 9 min 38 sec! My niece was yelling at me telling me "Times up you need to HANG UP!" lol. I did and am looking forward to meeting him. This conversation advice isn't bull shit advice at all - it's actually words to live by.
It's amazing though what you can find out about someone in just 9min and 38sec. Ok so this is what I got during our first timed talk: he's originally from Buffalo and moved back after 20 years in Texas, he's retired from the Navy, divorced with 2 teenage kids, just moved into his newly built house in the country, hasn't bought a snowblower yet and is regreting it, doesn't mind the snow and is enjoying being back in the area close to family, hates extremely hot/muggy weather and doesn't miss Southern Texas too much, it's his grandmother's 87 birthday this weekend and is going to his cousin's house for the party on Sunday but will be home in time to watch the Sabres play at 7:30, his 19 year old daughter moved here with him and has been adjusting to the move and is experiencing the change of seasons for the first time which she is enjoying, he's an IT Specialist and works 7am-3pm but once in a while has to work 8:30am-4:30pm - he tries to stick to the 7-3 shift during the summer since he loves doing outdoor activities, he told me to stay warm over this extremely cold weekend and enjoy my time away from work. PHEW! There's a lot of preliminary information there huh!? Can you see how I got wrapped up in chatting with him! It just flowed and don't get me wrong he was asking me questions in between all of this. It's easy to get caught up! Thank God your cell phone times your phone conversations so you don't have to "keep track" during your talk! Let me tell you timing your talks take talent! Try it!
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Undercover Dater
OK ladies, the matchmaker called with another "date" - he's 41 years old, 6' 4" tall with brown hair and blue eyes. He's an IT Specialist and will call in the next 24-48 hours. All this sounds like a covert mission!!! Who knew "dating" was so sly. This has been so exciting, like I'm back doing undercover investigations for Crime Stoppers! Now it's an entirely different type of "undercover" mission!!! LOL Just kidding - I'm NOT jumping into bed with any of these men I'm meeting. Just thought it would be something funny to say at the moment. In all honesty I'll be interested to see how many men I meet before I really feel like I want to spend some substantial time with them.
On another note, I started teaching the Spring semester Public Speaking class this week and the class is full of freshmen teenagers with the exception of one. He's 35 years old and wants to do something new with his life so decided to go back to school to be a Vetrinarian Technition. He just moved back to the area from Illinois and is divorced. He's about 6' 2" tall, nice build, held the door for me, nice eyes and all I can say is I'm mildly attracted to him!!! Not good for a teacher-student relationship. Today he was asking me lots of questions including how old I am, do I have kids, any animals so I cut it off before he asked the big question since I knew where it was going! Thank God we didn't get to the "Are you single" questions! I was having technical difficulties with the audio/visual equipment and took that as my opportunity as an out of the conversation since my class room was starting to fill up. OMG it's only the second day of class! This is going to be a LONG SEMESTER!!!
On another note, I started teaching the Spring semester Public Speaking class this week and the class is full of freshmen teenagers with the exception of one. He's 35 years old and wants to do something new with his life so decided to go back to school to be a Vetrinarian Technition. He just moved back to the area from Illinois and is divorced. He's about 6' 2" tall, nice build, held the door for me, nice eyes and all I can say is I'm mildly attracted to him!!! Not good for a teacher-student relationship. Today he was asking me lots of questions including how old I am, do I have kids, any animals so I cut it off before he asked the big question since I knew where it was going! Thank God we didn't get to the "Are you single" questions! I was having technical difficulties with the audio/visual equipment and took that as my opportunity as an out of the conversation since my class room was starting to fill up. OMG it's only the second day of class! This is going to be a LONG SEMESTER!!!
Sunday, January 16, 2011
Finding Happiness Investigation
So last night I went to a Festivas party put on by a coworker. The host asked everyone to bring their favorite party food - each would be judged and prizes would be given out. It's the 3rd year running and I've enjoyed attending each time. There is always excellent food and fabulous conversations full of laughter. I think it's because there is always a total mix of people there - coworkers, heterosexual and homosexual couples as well as single heterosexual and homosexual individuals. I'm always facinated by the dynamics of the crowd, so this time I decided to sit back and observe the interaction between everyone. Since I'm looking for a "soul mate" I wanted to see how the couples interacted with each other.
I was impressed. There was no division between any of them - they all mingled, chatted, and joked with each other. Normally heterosexual men are uncomfortable with homosexual men but last night there were no barriers. I was so proud to be with this group last night because that's not always the case. I've always found women to accept homosexuality better then men. For example, I used to work at AIDS Community Services of WNY doing fundraising and media relations. When it came to going to events, my boyfriend at the time always found a reason not to attend with me. I slowly realized he was homophobic! Which in this day and age is rediculous. At any case he missed out on some great events and meeting some great people. Later after we broke up most of my family confessed to me they thought HE WAS GAY! I was shocked! Maybe that's what drove his homophobic nature - who knows who cares that's over and done with. If he's gay that would be my luck though. lol
Getting back to the party, sorry I digressed, it was amazing to see how attentive and respectful both sets of couples were with their partners as they helped prepare the dips, desserts and delicious appetizers they brought for the big competition. That's what I want. Someone to be by my side no matter what. So I ventured into the crowd and began investigating what makes a good union between two people.
Some couples met through friends or family, others while shopping and a few met through dating websites. All that I spoke to said there was a certain "spark" the minute they met each other but like anything in life their relationships have all taken work by both parties. One man said they learned to love, respect and honor each other through time but knew early on it was worth the work. "You both need to be happy in your life before you can join the two together," said another man, "Once you are content with your own life, that will open you up to finding the same in a partner." Well that explains it. Lord knows over the past 6+ years my life has been in turmoil! I lost both my parents to cancer 3 weeks apart, then lost a total of 5 more close relatives to cancer just 9 months after that, lost my job a month after purchasing the house I grew up in, my brother and sister weren't speaking to either me or each other, and I was struggling fincancially after losing my $90,000 a year job and forced to take a job that paid only $25,000, so in order to keep what I had worked so hard to get I had to work two jobs (including being a cashier at Target) just to make ends meet. I clawed my way back upward and onward and now I finally realize I am content with where I work, live and play. There is no way I could have committed to making someone else happy during those years when I was struggling daily with death, family disfunction and just making ends meet. It's all coming full circle for me now and I'm embracing it with excitement.
The conversations I had with everyone last night made my eyes open wide and realize NOW is MY TIME. It will be just a matter of time before I find the man I'm supposed to share my life with. I believe things happen for a reason and last night's party was ment for me to become aware of what's to come. Watching and talking to everyone made me feel good and know better days are ahead. So if you are ever wondering where your knight in shining armor is? Look at yourself first, because if YOU are NOT HAPPY, YOU will NOT find HAPPINESS. So start getting happy! And that's not bull shit advice!
I was impressed. There was no division between any of them - they all mingled, chatted, and joked with each other. Normally heterosexual men are uncomfortable with homosexual men but last night there were no barriers. I was so proud to be with this group last night because that's not always the case. I've always found women to accept homosexuality better then men. For example, I used to work at AIDS Community Services of WNY doing fundraising and media relations. When it came to going to events, my boyfriend at the time always found a reason not to attend with me. I slowly realized he was homophobic! Which in this day and age is rediculous. At any case he missed out on some great events and meeting some great people. Later after we broke up most of my family confessed to me they thought HE WAS GAY! I was shocked! Maybe that's what drove his homophobic nature - who knows who cares that's over and done with. If he's gay that would be my luck though. lol
Getting back to the party, sorry I digressed, it was amazing to see how attentive and respectful both sets of couples were with their partners as they helped prepare the dips, desserts and delicious appetizers they brought for the big competition. That's what I want. Someone to be by my side no matter what. So I ventured into the crowd and began investigating what makes a good union between two people.
Some couples met through friends or family, others while shopping and a few met through dating websites. All that I spoke to said there was a certain "spark" the minute they met each other but like anything in life their relationships have all taken work by both parties. One man said they learned to love, respect and honor each other through time but knew early on it was worth the work. "You both need to be happy in your life before you can join the two together," said another man, "Once you are content with your own life, that will open you up to finding the same in a partner." Well that explains it. Lord knows over the past 6+ years my life has been in turmoil! I lost both my parents to cancer 3 weeks apart, then lost a total of 5 more close relatives to cancer just 9 months after that, lost my job a month after purchasing the house I grew up in, my brother and sister weren't speaking to either me or each other, and I was struggling fincancially after losing my $90,000 a year job and forced to take a job that paid only $25,000, so in order to keep what I had worked so hard to get I had to work two jobs (including being a cashier at Target) just to make ends meet. I clawed my way back upward and onward and now I finally realize I am content with where I work, live and play. There is no way I could have committed to making someone else happy during those years when I was struggling daily with death, family disfunction and just making ends meet. It's all coming full circle for me now and I'm embracing it with excitement.
The conversations I had with everyone last night made my eyes open wide and realize NOW is MY TIME. It will be just a matter of time before I find the man I'm supposed to share my life with. I believe things happen for a reason and last night's party was ment for me to become aware of what's to come. Watching and talking to everyone made me feel good and know better days are ahead. So if you are ever wondering where your knight in shining armor is? Look at yourself first, because if YOU are NOT HAPPY, YOU will NOT find HAPPINESS. So start getting happy! And that's not bull shit advice!
Friday, January 14, 2011
Networking
Well I met my first "match" last night. He's 48 years old, physically fit and a corrections officer. We had a nice dinner and some great conversation. It turns out we know A LOT of the same people. Of course, why wouldn't we! Anyway, we agreed at the end of the night we enjoy each other's company but would be better if we were friends. He's very nice, sweet and respectful, just not what I'm looking for and there was no chemistry. Ladies, we all know there has to be chemistry!!! We are going to hang out once in a while because you never know who either one of us can meet through the other - it's called networking.
Now I think we need to do more "networking" in our lives. I can help us in both our love lives and professional lives. For instance, I was scanning a Facebook friend's "friend" list because I was extremely board during a meeting at work - my A.D.D. was in high gear and I needed to do something to pass the time. I came across a nice looking man on her list. Since I'm bold & beauty (LOL) I decided to shoot her an email inquiring about him. She thinks it would be a great idea for us to meet!!! Hey why not right?
I have decided "networking" is also a good thing for my career. I have several black tie affairs coming up and instead of taking a girlfriend, I have recruited my friend who is a federal agent to go with me. I even have a back up if he can't make it, a former colleague/reporter from my TV days. It always looks better if you have a date with you when networking - especially an outgoing one. Well, it turns out my two "dates" might need me to go with them to some events as well - once again giving me a chance to network with people I otherwise would have never met. How exciting!
Think about it - there are so many ways to network these days - especiall on the internet! We have Facebook (social networking), LinkedIn (professional networking), ABC.com (news networking) and then you have BLOGS like this one! It's all about connecting, reconnecting and meeting new people. So lets all get out there and NETWORK! You never know what can come out of it.
Now I think we need to do more "networking" in our lives. I can help us in both our love lives and professional lives. For instance, I was scanning a Facebook friend's "friend" list because I was extremely board during a meeting at work - my A.D.D. was in high gear and I needed to do something to pass the time. I came across a nice looking man on her list. Since I'm bold & beauty (LOL) I decided to shoot her an email inquiring about him. She thinks it would be a great idea for us to meet!!! Hey why not right?
I have decided "networking" is also a good thing for my career. I have several black tie affairs coming up and instead of taking a girlfriend, I have recruited my friend who is a federal agent to go with me. I even have a back up if he can't make it, a former colleague/reporter from my TV days. It always looks better if you have a date with you when networking - especially an outgoing one. Well, it turns out my two "dates" might need me to go with them to some events as well - once again giving me a chance to network with people I otherwise would have never met. How exciting!
Think about it - there are so many ways to network these days - especiall on the internet! We have Facebook (social networking), LinkedIn (professional networking), ABC.com (news networking) and then you have BLOGS like this one! It's all about connecting, reconnecting and meeting new people. So lets all get out there and NETWORK! You never know what can come out of it.
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Fairy Tales
It's amazing to me that when you're a little girl your mother reads you books about Prince Charming who comes in to rescue the Princess - secretly instilling in you there is a Prince Charming out there just waiting to sweep you off your feet. Now that's bullshit! I believe these fairy tales may have made a number of girls live in "Neverland" waiting for their Prince to arrive, when there is no real Prince just possible companions.
I met a woman today who is in her 40's and pregnant with a daughter. She was artificially impregnated about 30 weeks ago and was just diagnosed with breast cancer. This devistated me since I would like nothing more than to find a man and have a child. Anyway, she was sick of waiting for her Prince to arrive and decided to take charge of her life, fullfill her life, with her dream of a child. She was going to have almost everything she wanted and then was hit with the news she had cancer. This woman is an amazingly strong person and I have no doubt she will beat this dreaded disease but in my conversation with her she said something that prompted me to post this. She said she was NOT going to read any fairy tales to her daughter because she didn't want her to have the "Prince" perception growing up. Instead she got all Dr. Seuss books and one I never heard of called "The True Story of the 3 Little Pigs." It's a story from the wolf's perspective, how he happened to be at the wrong place, at the wrong time with a terrible cold. You have to read the original book first to your child then this one. What a concept huh?? Who would have thought anyone would write a book on the other characters perspective of the situation? I supposed it's just like the Broadway hit "Wicked." At any rate it's about time we start teaching our kids about the REAL WORLD instead of filling their heads with fairy tales. Don't get me wrong - Disney movies here and there a definate must - but don't shove Prince Charming down your daughters throats because would if he doesn't come through.
I hope and pray for this woman and her unborn daughter, knowing she has so much to give and teach this little bundle of joy who will grace the world in a few weeks. I also hope she will ultimately get her fairly tale ending of bliss and joy.
I learned a lot from her today that I will take with me through my life when I eventually have a child and through my dating journey - since I told her a little of what was going on with me. She asked me to periodically visit her with my crazy stories to help pass the time - which I agreeded to. I have my first "date" Thursday so stay tuned! I hope to make you all laugh like I did her today. A study showed laughter makes you live longer - I hope I can assist her and you in that.
I met a woman today who is in her 40's and pregnant with a daughter. She was artificially impregnated about 30 weeks ago and was just diagnosed with breast cancer. This devistated me since I would like nothing more than to find a man and have a child. Anyway, she was sick of waiting for her Prince to arrive and decided to take charge of her life, fullfill her life, with her dream of a child. She was going to have almost everything she wanted and then was hit with the news she had cancer. This woman is an amazingly strong person and I have no doubt she will beat this dreaded disease but in my conversation with her she said something that prompted me to post this. She said she was NOT going to read any fairy tales to her daughter because she didn't want her to have the "Prince" perception growing up. Instead she got all Dr. Seuss books and one I never heard of called "The True Story of the 3 Little Pigs." It's a story from the wolf's perspective, how he happened to be at the wrong place, at the wrong time with a terrible cold. You have to read the original book first to your child then this one. What a concept huh?? Who would have thought anyone would write a book on the other characters perspective of the situation? I supposed it's just like the Broadway hit "Wicked." At any rate it's about time we start teaching our kids about the REAL WORLD instead of filling their heads with fairy tales. Don't get me wrong - Disney movies here and there a definate must - but don't shove Prince Charming down your daughters throats because would if he doesn't come through.
I hope and pray for this woman and her unborn daughter, knowing she has so much to give and teach this little bundle of joy who will grace the world in a few weeks. I also hope she will ultimately get her fairly tale ending of bliss and joy.
I learned a lot from her today that I will take with me through my life when I eventually have a child and through my dating journey - since I told her a little of what was going on with me. She asked me to periodically visit her with my crazy stories to help pass the time - which I agreeded to. I have my first "date" Thursday so stay tuned! I hope to make you all laugh like I did her today. A study showed laughter makes you live longer - I hope I can assist her and you in that.
Sunday, January 9, 2011
A must watch!!
This is very inspirational - take this advice through life ladies!
http://www.eightprinciples.com/
http://www.eightprinciples.com/
Dating Dilemma and Doing Something About It
Ok so my dating dilemma continues. So far I met a man who likes to dress up as pirates and mermans - UGH. Yes MERMANS! He also likes to garden and bake. Wants to build a home on some land and have windmills to power his electrick (that's how he spelled ELECTRIC!) Lord help me - how do I find these weirdos! I'm thinking he might be gay but who knows. I'm not investing any time in this. Done on to the next.
Then I met a guy through a friend who is very nice, we have hit it off but....and lately there always seems to be a "BUT" he doesn't know what he wants. Ready to hear why??? He moved back to the area a year ago to be closer to family and has remained on again/off again with his ex in Texas. He likes spending time with me and told his ex/not-ex about me and she asked him not to go any further with me until she gets a chance to come here and visit!! OK you're 38 years old - whose life is this??? Yours or her's? I mean can't you decide for yourself how you want YOUR life to go? Needless to say I told him this. I don't think it was very well received but hey I'm the most open and honest person you'll meet. I speak my mind and expect the same in return. Anyway I really do like this guy but I'm not going to wait around for another man to make up his mind. Time is precious, so my eyes and options are wide open.
A few months ago my niece went to a lecture at school and the guest speaker was a relationship expert. She's nationally known, written books on dating and has even been featured on Oprah. She advised my niece to have me call her - so I finally did afer 3 months of trying it on my own. I met with the dating expert this week to help me with my dating dilemma and assist in finding me a nice guy. Since I can't seem to find one myself I figured I need to recruit someone who knew what they were doing. She was open and honest, making me see what I have been doing wrong in past relationships and how I can fix it. I felt so pumped!!! She's going to find the man I've been searching for! She has an excellent success rate and quite the gift for picking out people who are a "match" in the match making biz.
The one thing that bothered me though is she asked one thing I could change about myself and I said my weight. I would like to lose a few more pounds. Hell who wouldn't right?! She told me to lose at least 20 more and I said I'm working on it. But now that I think about it that's so superficial and such bullshit! As an adult looking for love, why can't we all see what's on the inside instead of judging just what's on the outside?
Then I met a guy through a friend who is very nice, we have hit it off but....and lately there always seems to be a "BUT" he doesn't know what he wants. Ready to hear why??? He moved back to the area a year ago to be closer to family and has remained on again/off again with his ex in Texas. He likes spending time with me and told his ex/not-ex about me and she asked him not to go any further with me until she gets a chance to come here and visit!! OK you're 38 years old - whose life is this??? Yours or her's? I mean can't you decide for yourself how you want YOUR life to go? Needless to say I told him this. I don't think it was very well received but hey I'm the most open and honest person you'll meet. I speak my mind and expect the same in return. Anyway I really do like this guy but I'm not going to wait around for another man to make up his mind. Time is precious, so my eyes and options are wide open.
A few months ago my niece went to a lecture at school and the guest speaker was a relationship expert. She's nationally known, written books on dating and has even been featured on Oprah. She advised my niece to have me call her - so I finally did afer 3 months of trying it on my own. I met with the dating expert this week to help me with my dating dilemma and assist in finding me a nice guy. Since I can't seem to find one myself I figured I need to recruit someone who knew what they were doing. She was open and honest, making me see what I have been doing wrong in past relationships and how I can fix it. I felt so pumped!!! She's going to find the man I've been searching for! She has an excellent success rate and quite the gift for picking out people who are a "match" in the match making biz.
The one thing that bothered me though is she asked one thing I could change about myself and I said my weight. I would like to lose a few more pounds. Hell who wouldn't right?! She told me to lose at least 20 more and I said I'm working on it. But now that I think about it that's so superficial and such bullshit! As an adult looking for love, why can't we all see what's on the inside instead of judging just what's on the outside?
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