Dating Dilemma and Doing Something About It

Ok so my dating dilemma continues. So far I met a man who likes to dress up as pirates and mermans - UGH. Yes MERMANS! He also likes to garden and bake. Wants to build a home on some land and have windmills to power his electrick (that's how he spelled ELECTRIC!) Lord help me - how do I find these weirdos! I'm thinking he might be gay but who knows. I'm not investing any time in this. Done on to the next.

Then I met a guy through a friend who is very nice, we have hit it off but....and lately there always seems to be a "BUT" he doesn't know what he wants. Ready to hear why??? He moved back to the area a year ago to be closer to family and has remained on again/off again with his ex in Texas. He likes spending time with me and told his ex/not-ex about me and she asked him not to go any further with me until she gets a chance to come here and visit!! OK you're 38 years old - whose life is this??? Yours or her's? I mean can't you decide for yourself how you want YOUR life to go? Needless to say I told him this. I don't think it was very well received but hey I'm the most open and honest person you'll meet. I speak my mind and expect the same in return. Anyway I really do like this guy but I'm not going to wait around for another man to make up his mind. Time is precious, so my eyes and options are wide open.

A few months ago my niece went to a lecture at school and the guest speaker was a relationship expert. She's nationally known, written books on dating and has even been featured on Oprah. She advised my niece to have me call her - so I finally did afer 3 months of trying it on my own. I met with the dating expert this week to help me with my dating dilemma and assist in finding me a nice guy. Since I can't seem to find one myself I figured I need to recruit someone who knew what they were doing. She was open and honest, making me see what I have been doing wrong in past relationships and how I can fix it. I felt so pumped!!! She's going to find the man I've been searching for! She has an excellent success rate and quite the gift for picking out people who are a "match" in the match making biz.

The one thing that bothered me though is she asked one thing I could change about myself and I said my weight. I would like to lose a few more pounds. Hell who wouldn't right?! She told me to lose at least 20 more and I said I'm working on it. But now that I think about it that's so superficial and such bullshit! As an adult looking for love, why can't we all see what's on the inside instead of judging just what's on the outside?