My next "date" called. He's very nice and we are going out on Monday to dinner at 6:30pm. We chatted for only about 10 minutes on Friday with brief introductions/conversation - we need to leave something to talk about when we meet! LOL Anyway I found out quite a bit in that short 10 minute converstion and am looking forward to meeting him.
I find it funny how guys introduce them selves/strike up conversation with a woman they have never met. There is usually a lot of hesitations, they sometimes talk over you prematurely with an exciting story of their own, and the inevitable nervous giggle/laugh. This guy, however, was very confident, didn't jump over what I was saying but politely waited for me to finish before pausing a moment and answering. It was a really pleasant conversation!
The match maker says the first phone conversation shouldn't be more than 5 minutes long - enough for a brief introduction and to set up where you are going to meet. She said leave them with an air of mystery about you - if you talk too much during the first conversation you won't have anything to talk about when you meet and you will have to struggle to make conversation. It's a good tip to live by ladies so start timing your talks with a new man! Make them wait to find out about you AND YOU should always cut off the converstation. I was good at this - the first guy that called me, I cut off at 5 min 25 sec. This one was a little more difficult because he was so relaxed! The conversation just flowed and I began getting caught up in it! UGH We lasted 9 min 38 sec! My niece was yelling at me telling me "Times up you need to HANG UP!" lol. I did and am looking forward to meeting him. This conversation advice isn't bull shit advice at all - it's actually words to live by.
It's amazing though what you can find out about someone in just 9min and 38sec. Ok so this is what I got during our first timed talk: he's originally from Buffalo and moved back after 20 years in Texas, he's retired from the Navy, divorced with 2 teenage kids, just moved into his newly built house in the country, hasn't bought a snowblower yet and is regreting it, doesn't mind the snow and is enjoying being back in the area close to family, hates extremely hot/muggy weather and doesn't miss Southern Texas too much, it's his grandmother's 87 birthday this weekend and is going to his cousin's house for the party on Sunday but will be home in time to watch the Sabres play at 7:30, his 19 year old daughter moved here with him and has been adjusting to the move and is experiencing the change of seasons for the first time which she is enjoying, he's an IT Specialist and works 7am-3pm but once in a while has to work 8:30am-4:30pm - he tries to stick to the 7-3 shift during the summer since he loves doing outdoor activities, he told me to stay warm over this extremely cold weekend and enjoy my time away from work. PHEW! There's a lot of preliminary information there huh!? Can you see how I got wrapped up in chatting with him! It just flowed and don't get me wrong he was asking me questions in between all of this. It's easy to get caught up! Thank God your cell phone times your phone conversations so you don't have to "keep track" during your talk! Let me tell you timing your talks take talent! Try it!
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