A Selfish Society

This past weekend was quite eventful! I was so busy I hadn't had a chance to blog about it!!! On Friday I had date two with"Toby," then a black tie event for work Saturday, my sister came into town so we went out bar hopping after my event Saturday, Sunday we recovered and went shopping, Monday I had to take my sister with me to work because she had a few tests she needed done, and then my sister left for home on Tuesday. WOW lots packed into a few short days! My sister, niece and I had an awesome time. Lots of laughs and "girl" time.

We watched the movie "The Lost Valentine" with Betty White and it got us talking. How did society get so selfish when it comes to love? That movie talked about a time when couples fell in love and stayed together through thick and thin. Now it seems it's too easy to give up on "love" and move on to the next potential "love." Why is that?! We think it's because people don't live their lives for other people anymore, now they are selfish and live for themselves. Society has made it to easy for people to give up, throw in the towel and get divorced. After watching that movie, back in the days of War people felt they didn't have time to waste and got married. They wanted to do nice things for their loved ones. Why have we lost that? Wars still happen but it seems military wives have evolved and now have a habit of cheating or leaving their men while they are firghting for our country's freedom instead of sticking by their sides. (I know a number of women who have done this and I'm not saying all military wives are like this but there are a number of them that do and it's disappointing!)

Anyway, the movie made us all long for a love that was our equal. One who wants to take care of us instead of us taking care of them like so many men want these days. What is it with men wanting a "Mommy" to take care of them anyway!? I seem to find all the strays and so does my sister. "Toby" said something to me last night that made me think. We were talking about where we might be headed and I told him we needed to take it slow, he agreed but said he could see himself carrying me through life to the finish line. Scary since this all just started but makes you stop and think about what kind of guy he is.

I really like him but I have a habit of jumping in too quick at a dead run and I just can't do that again. I feel like I just got "me" back after getting out of my last relationship and I don't want to lose me again. I like me! And I don't want that to sound selfish but I think you really need to love yourself before you can find the love of your life and that's not bull shit or selfish.